http://www.BreakupBrad.com/ -- Get Your Gay or Lesbian Ex Back
You've probably noticed that the rest of my videos here on YouTube, as well as my comprehensive Ex Factor Guide program, are mostly for straight couples. And that's not because there aren't a lot of same-sex couples breaking up -- after all, 1 in 10 people in the Western world is openly gay. It's mainly because the strategies you need to use are nearly identical, regardless of whether you're straight or gay. I haven't created a separate version of my Ex Factor program for same-sex partnerships specifically because it would be 95% identical to the current program for straight couples.
BUT, while there isn't enough of a difference in the strategies to create a whole separate program for the gay and lesbian audience, there are a few notable differences that I am going to touch on in this video.
Before I dive into it, I should let you know that you can get in touch with me to talk about your own specific situation by sending me an email... you'll find my contact info at my website, BreakupBrad.com, along with my free video presentation. After this video, please head over to BreakupBrad.com if you want more advice and tips.
So, what is the difference between winning a gay or lesbian ex back and winning a straight ex back? The only major difference is that gays and lesbians tend to find different characteristics and traits attractive in their partners... while straight women look for "alpha male" men who are confident, social, and successful, lesbian women tend to seek partners who exhibit both traditional female qualities (like compassion and submissiveness) and more masculine traits such as confidence and independence.
In other words, if you're trying to repair a same-sex relationship, you need to understand what your ex finds attractive. I'm straight, as you may have gathered, so I can't speak from personal experience... but there are lots of articles and research available on the internet that can help you understand what gays and lesbians find attractive and desirable in their partner. That said, just like straight couples, gays and lesbians often differ somewhat in their preferences... so, everyone's list of 'desirable characteristics' will be slightly different. You just need to understand generally what it was about you that your partner fell for in the first place.
Why is this important? Well, because your breakup - and every breakup - was caused, fundamentally, by a loss of attraction. If you're going to get a second chance with your ex, then you need to re-build his or her attraction for you... it needs to happen naturally, it can't be forced or rushed. Over time, by using the no contact strategy, flirting, and having ongoing fun conversations, you can show the positive and desirable qualities that made your ex fall in love with you back when you first met.
Beyond that, the process of winning back your same-sex ex is exactly the same as it is for straight couples: start with 30 days of no contact, then slowly use text messages or brief conversations to rekindle your ex's attraction and get them thinking about you, reference happy memories to help your ex forget the negative aspects of your relationship, and finally meet in person to flirt and re-build physical attraction.
Flirting and the physical aspect of a gay or lesbian relationship might be a bit different than it is for heterosexual couples... and you definitely need to know how to build sexual tension and get your ex to desire you on a physical level if you want to win them back. Any in-person meetings with your ex should involve lots of eye contact, casual and playful touching, and you may possibly even want to throw some subtle sexual innuendos into your conversations if things are going well.
Of course, before you can flirt and build sexual tension between you and your ex, you need to set the stage... beginning with the no contact strategy. For 30 days after your breakup -- starting right now, even if it's been a month or more since you and your ex went your separate ways -- don't talk to your ex at all. Or, at the very least, only talk to them enough to avoid seeming rude. During this 30-day period, your ex will begin to let go of the negative memories and start to miss having you around... they'll become nostalgic and, if all goes well, be much more receptive to your messages once you re-establish regular contact.
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