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4 Dating Struggles of Highly Intelligent Men

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A man’s superior intelligence can often get in the way of him experiencing success with women. For example: He can end up over-analyzing what is required to attract a woman and as a result, he might then go into his shell and feel unworthy of the kinds of women that he really wants. Yet, the fact is that most women (including pretty, beautiful women) are very easy to attract and pick up. You just have to understand how a woman’s attraction really works and once you do, you can instantly begin to push a woman’s buttons and make her feel attracted to you. In the video above, I provide examples of what you can say and do to instantly and easily begin to trigger a woman’s feelings of attraction for you. I also explain the following, 4 dating struggles of a highly intelligent man: 1. He's so used to being right about everything in life that he can't see how it could be possible for him to be wrong about women in any way. 2. He usually takes what women say literally, when it comes to the subject of attraction. 3. He often thinks that small talk is for stupid people. 4. He usually doesn't like to be seen as a beginner at anything. When you watch the video, you will realize that dating for intellectuals doesn’t need to be difficult at all. In fact, due to your superior intelligence as a man, you should be able to understand and then apply my techniques quicker and easier than a guy who isn’t as smart as you are. When you apply my techniques during interactions with women, you will see that women do feel a spark with you and their attraction for you rapidly increases as you continue talking to them. As a result, you can then get to a phone number, kiss, sex, date and into a relationship with the woman because she really wants it to happen. To learn more dating tips for smart guys and how to make women appreciate and love your intelligence as a man, go to: https://www.themodernman.com/blog/the-flow-ebook.html Cheers Dan Bacon Author of The Flow and founder of TheModernMan.com P.S. As explained in the video, women do appreciate intelligent men. However, the way that it works is as follows… P.P.S. If you’ve ever asked yourself the question, “Why don’t women like me?” or, “How can I make women want me?” make sure that you subscribe to my Youtube channel now. While watching my videos, you will learn that you really ARE good enough for the majority of women out there and simply need to start creating a spark with them during conversations to make them want you. I always include examples of how to do that in my videos, so be sure to subscribe to learn more: https://www.youtube.com/user/DanBaconTheModernMan?sub_confirmation=1
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Corey R. (7 months ago)
I bought "The Flow" on audio and have listened to it like 10 times. I highly highly highly recommend this book! Money well well spent. It's the best and most simple well laid out content I've found.
Corey R. (7 months ago)
Also Dan Bacon I just wanted to say your free YouTube videos really helped me a lot when I was feeling really down and depressed. Thanks!
Corey R. (7 months ago)
The way you teach to get phone numbers and to get the first kiss is Gold. I've used the number technique maybe 20 times now. I've made out with 6 women now since I started taking action in the last 3 months. Only used your kiss technique once but it is on point. I have bought and learned a lot of content from other sources but I mean what I said about how great "The Flow" is and how it is the simplest, well laid out and natural content I've found.
Dan Bacon (7 months ago)
Thanks Corey! I'm happy to hear that you loved The Flow. I look forward to hearing a success story from you (i.e. getting to a kiss or sex, getting a girlfriend) sometime soon! Cheers, Dan
david mateo (7 months ago)
Also is the flow ebook and audio the same thing? I'm more of a reader so I think the ebook is much better for me. what do you think? or does the audio contain information that's not in the ebook?
david mateo (7 months ago)
I'm thinking about buying this book too, is it really good? I really want to start expanding my social skills in relation with girls. is it good like the reviews have been?
bissy nama (2 days ago)
U have to be a player in order to land one
Ander Salvador (4 days ago)
Great advises!
JaVaughn McGregor (4 days ago)
I don't see "The Flow" e-book on the Audiobook app... That's crazy cause I really wanna buy and study this content repeatedly so I can add it to my arsenal of many dating angles that I've studied from different authors on the same topic.
Romario Ayala (23 days ago)
See, my problem is, I am an idiot and still don't know where I went wrong lol
Pham Nuwen (23 days ago)
Good video for incels. Stop going on killing sprees!
Horus SC (25 days ago)
The first chart is the story of my life.
K J (26 days ago)
Your book is expensive my guy. I bet it's worth its weight though
K J (26 days ago)
Buddy your narrative from start to about 3:30 was talking directly to me. The progression from start to finish was dead-on the order my mindset took me through
Andrew Gosselin (26 days ago)
It seems to me that in order to have a successful date with a woman you must show her that you are more than a mass of cranial knowledge. And to do that you must play to what she wouldn't 'see', meaning other than your IQ. The things we might think that would turn a girl off, actually turn them on, not because we are talking about it, but because we are showing them we aren't afraid.
Robert Bahler (29 days ago)
Who told you my life story?
Logical Goldfish (1 month ago)
I have an IQ of 138, 6 feet tall, well endowed down there, above average looks, decent finances such as a home, vehicle, and excellent credit. I can be cheeky and playful with women but I still struggle to get women. . I'm 31.
Keven Games0 (1 month ago)
Often feel like small talk is useless😂😂so true
divine providence (1 month ago)
One of life's greatest questions. What does a women want? That's why I'm a single man!!
Vlad (1 month ago)
Thank you.
Kirianah Nelson (1 month ago)
Where do highly intelligent women find these available highly intelligent men who are looking for a relationship? 😌
Alisha L (1 month ago)
They are insecure and controlling and think they are never wrong. It’s a turnoff.
Matt Markonis (1 month ago)
I have an IQ between 125-145 and I've been apparently psycho-socially and psycho-sexually targeted by both men and women for 4+ years now, if not much longer. It's tough, fellas. Very tough!
Carlos Sendra (1 month ago)
This is explains a lot, I am super intelligent and yet very unsuccessful with women
Uunuu Sodoo (1 month ago)
When i am around girls that i am not intrested in i make small talk funny jokes withoit even trying i just go on an instinct BUT when i am around the girl i like my brain tries to use more power and i end up trying to create a small talk but it takes too much time and i ask logical questions cuz i panicked
Felix Rose As (1 month ago)
This is gold, thanx bro
Bloodyslayer73 (2 months ago)
Sadly my case again. About small talk? I feel it like when you are driving your car at 10 mph during an hour, it is a living inferno. Actually a friend of mine told me that I should try at least to fake a different mask than boredom and weariness face.
Martin Hickman (2 months ago)
Great advice. I’ve been doing these conversational things since I was a teenager and have mostly had success since. I’m sure you cover this elsewhere but body language and vocal tone are also very important.
Somebody (2 months ago)
r/iamverysmart Right, good job on recruiting almost the entire reddit AHAHAH
Le Passant (2 months ago)
Oh god, every point hit me but the 4th one even more... being a beginner at anything is so bad for me, I generally don't start if I'm not sure to get out of the beginner zone afterwards.
Shakespeare (2 months ago)
He is speaking science and wisdom to me.
Ryan M (2 months ago)
His book The Flow is well worth the money. Highly recommend it!
Normy2323 (2 months ago)
This is gold. Keep up the good work, Dan.
Arthur (2 months ago)
Amazing video! Really helpful and insightful. I might listen to this for a couple more times.
Man-Ung Yi (2 months ago)
Im am H.I.M..
Dhawal S (2 months ago)
01:30 to 3:30 ... wow you are genius Dan! Wow
Pat Goolsby (2 months ago)
This dude is spitting facts 👌🏼
ichiban2point0 (2 months ago)
I'm glad I'm not intelligent. I just go on animal instincts. Lol.
Inteligent Design (2 months ago)
hes rite, I have a 128 iq, and I have no problem talking to women, and getting dates, but 90% of the time I get friend zoned  . . . . im now trying to get better at teasing, banter, and seeing the signs to make moves on them ( that's where I mess it up most the time )
Ronald McDonald (3 months ago)
Dan's explanations and examples are clear, to the point, and efficient
Tony Ramos (3 months ago)
We are our own worst enemy, our instincts tell us we need to be extra nice, buy them stuff, basically become suckers, the faster you can overcome this instinct the easier it becomes.
Joe Billielo (3 months ago)
I have a 132 I.Q. and I can honestly say that as time went on and I grew smarter I also grew to the point of not being able to stand almost everyone around me!!! You'd actually think that I have anti-social personality disorder, but in reality it's that I just can't tolerate people's bullshit!!!! Boy, this video really resonates with me Wow!!! I found in most long-term interactions with men or women I find myself having to compromise my core values and also find myself having to eat crow from these people AND I JUST CANNOT DO IT!!!! I cant tolerate having my intelligence blatantly insulted by letting someone shit on me AND NEARLY EVERYONE TODAY WANTS SOMEONE TO SHIT ON!!!! SORRY.......IT AIN'T GONNA BE ME!!!
Helmut Gottschalk (3 months ago)
Good advise, thanks. Still learning about those beautiful weird creatures.
KidCity Lynnwood (3 months ago)
As a highly intelligent woman, I experience the same thing.
Heart2HeartBooks (3 months ago)
This was very informative and enlightening. Thanks!
bobby george (3 months ago)
Really good vid thanks
KPEC3arrival (3 months ago)
Day one was yesterday, 8-21-18. I met two women. One was at the hardware store. I made several jokes with her and she was laughing. What they were about, I can't remember. My sense of humor is improv, in the moment. But it was working. Unfortunately though, she was a "hostage". A "hostage" is a female who works and has to have contact with customers. The other woman was at an open mic before I performed. I asked her for a bottle of water. She said she wasn't sure if they had any, and if they did, they would be in the back somewhere. I told her I felt assured that the quality would be top notch. She laughed. But again, she was a hostage, so I didn't go for digits. Several things I did right; confidence, posture, smiling, vocal volume. I think it's coming together.
KPEC3arrival (3 months ago)
Ok here's the Dan Bacon Challenge: For the next ten days, I will listen to this video and meet at least one new woman every day and attempt to attract her per Dan's information. If it works, I'll bring back a testimonial. Every day, I'll keep track. Today is 8-21-18. I start today.
pineapplepenumbra (3 months ago)
I'm intelligent, but I'm also aware of my weaknesses, and I'm not so arrogant that I think I have a clue about women. How many genuinely intelligent men are convinced that they know about women?
Vishal Chanduri (3 months ago)
This video is great. Great advice.
Charles G (3 months ago)
This guy has nailed it, and all without coming off as an overconfident jerk.
anaamee (3 months ago)
This video is a life saver.
Ruzo Owzy (3 months ago)
Best content...the understanding on this video was on point, I have been too Intelligent....Thanks Dan.....
William Topping (3 months ago)
Thank you for this video. I got 9 minutes in, and you're right. I was reeling off many encounters where I had said something that I personally considered "flippant" at the time. Like where I met this Woman at a party for the first time who was taking selfies, and I went over and said "when do you think you've got enough validation?", and she loved that. Also the cringefests where I remember a Woman asked me to come sit with her, and I basically did a job interview and got nowhere. It's "gentle teasing". "playing". I'll be honest with you, you're bang on the money, it does make me personally feel uncomfortable. But that is the only lock on the door for me and success with Women. I'm going to practice teasing a bit more. Thank you for this insight, even though I had assumed the past, it's still nice to hear it from someone else, and from other peoples experiences in the comments below.
StringPuppet Maestro (3 months ago)
Man, this hits home big time!
加藤みずっち (3 months ago)
me in the nutshell
huta888 (3 months ago)
That is the best advise I ever heard about dating! ...thank you my good sir much appreciated!
Peter Vey (4 months ago)
That scene from that movie is one of the funniest of all the time.
B Val (4 months ago)
Great video.
Luis Alegría (4 months ago)
Pretty nice teaching. thanks!!
DillieVlog (4 months ago)
damn. you called me out on being smart and logical.
David Barocio (4 months ago)
Very clear and straightforward thx.
George Pavy (4 months ago)
Thank you so much for breaking down this particular subject, Dan.You have a new subscriber!
Ivan Kolić (4 months ago)
OMG some of these explanations are eye opening. It's so clear now.
Pablo Casanova (4 months ago)
Hi Dan! Could you please make a video for guys that are already in a relationship (with two kids in my case) but find the frequency of sexual interactions is insufficient. In another words: How can you turn a women on when you're already in a long-term relationship? It would be of much help to me. And I suppose to others as well. Cheers on your channel!
Travis Hamblin (4 months ago)
Well this explains a lot.
MrYodaman90 (4 months ago)
+Dan Bacon I honestly felt you were describing me during this entire video, it helped me to realize I have a much deeper problem... I'm actually really good at having these ideal conversations with girls that are already in relationships but I can't seem to do it with the ones that are actually available. I have no idea why this is and it just doesn't make sense to me. Do you know why this is?
TheLucidDreamer (4 months ago)
Now I know why I got voted class flirt. I didn't even realise this I how I always acted around new girls especially.
dank apologist (4 months ago)
I'm in Mensa and I've not been super successful with women. I can have playful conversations and generate attraction I suppose. I don't know how it leads to sex though. From porno I know that men have to be great gentle but perseverent leaders. I think a lot if women are attracted but until we make love or at least kiss, or at least date, it remains unconfirmed. Need male strength- i.e. dominant masculinity but gentle too a little I guess. I don't know- all the sex I've gotten, women made it easy. I get more when I travel. I don't even want just sex. I want a family. I feel I can atteact them as you say but it doesn't necessarily go anywhere. You still have to spend some time- and who isn't busy these days- and bring it to sex. I should do more Netflix and chill when I get the chance but I don't want to chase. I feel like I interact like this. I'm not boring, am I? But the women don't make it easy. Except one did, gave me her #, came over, we chilled and had sex. And country girl looked down to earth. But we had multiple conversations before she gave me her #, without me asking. She worked at a super market where I saw her. Seems there are more steps. So I'm trying to be open minded to your teachings! Mostly I'm busy working or living life/hobbies Assume the best conversation! K s
Bugumir (4 months ago)
I always skip the "I'm just kidding" part when I tease them. I always assume that its implied. They don't, so I fail.
Alireza Morgan (4 months ago)
Dan Bacon . I Love you man.
VIRAVAX Gaming Channel (4 months ago)
Be the spark ⚡️
Ace Se (4 months ago)
I have another question. Sometimes I clearly see that some girls are really attracted to me, but because in some cases because I waited to long they turned uninterested and even turned mean. Kind of like being angry at me not retaining the vibe. Do you think this could be correct? Could time really kill a girl's interest? There is talk of a couple of months here.
TypicallyUnique (4 months ago)
This is the best advice I've ever seen on attracting women. It's really not that complicated. Good eye contact, be playful, have fun. Once they're hooked then you can start acting like your normal weirdo self.
Angelika Czepan (4 months ago)
Real good humor is a sign of intelligence. And yes, playfulness and joking around works. Women like guys who make them laugh. Life is serious enough. :-))
arkorful kwaansa (4 months ago)
very useful
Calvini2013 (4 months ago)
My partner showed this to me...a compliment? Lol
Pooya Pkz (4 months ago)
this is the advice that i needed for yeaaars , thanks bro . you just changed the whole game for me . peace
Ocean Bender (4 months ago)
holy shit this is accurate!!
Luemm3l (4 months ago)
just wanted to say thanks and keep rocking that beard, looking good!
Angry Santa (4 months ago)
Great video 👍🏽
Rulant Palupy (4 months ago)
U r really good on describing this issues don bacon. Good job, man
dablackpimp (4 months ago)
This is a perfect vid , well done
Ehsan Shams (5 months ago)
I really enjoyed your video, full of useful information, and you earned a new sub, thanks!
Dan Bacon (5 months ago)
Thanks Ehsan! Welcome to the channel. More videos on the way.
Patrick Anderson (5 months ago)
Wow. Thank you very much for this info. It has really passed over my head (or i didnt want to admit certain things subconsciously) for a long time. Thank you very much for the help!
Pamela Hardy (5 months ago)
I swear I'm a man at heart then because this is how I treat men 😂
Dan Bacon (5 months ago)
Pam the man! It's usually Dan the man, but now it's Pam.
Ali Azhar (5 months ago)
Wow! Eye opener. It makes sense now.
ven sing (5 months ago)
Hi Dan, all that you mentioned is me , i see through them without saying anything i know who she is and what she want, so i tell them instead of asking to know about them, and i speak only truth its a another problem. i will buy audio version. Good analysis you did appreciate it.
SiMoN Samuel (5 months ago)
Ah dude! SPOT ON! Thanks so much for helping us understand this. This video hits me directly.
Johnny van den Elzen (5 months ago)
He is my ginger beard brother! <3
Miah Leissa (5 months ago)
I will agree that the ability to make us laugh is important. so is a very nice smile ;) Show a lady that being in your company is FUN, and she will want to be with you!
Samuel Lee (5 months ago)
Dude, your videos are so awesome, comprehensive, and relatable!
ltlblugrl (5 months ago)
Can you tell me where to find a highly intelligent man?
Das Richter (5 months ago)
I really like his breakdowns. Cause I have trouble with placid conversations about boring things, I got no imagination unless I’m rolling with a different topic then I’m magical
Michael Antonio Re (5 months ago)
Every video he has really speaks to me. It's better than most of the videos about women on YouTube.
John LaPaglia (5 months ago)
Dear Dan Bacon, I can't argue with your advice. Good job.
Trayton Williams (5 months ago)
The beginning description is so accurate to me that it’s scary but it ends being accurate about having trouble with women. I do know what women want and it’s so damn easy; it makes me feel like I’m a grandmaster chess player. I paused at 1:34 to say this but I’m interested enough to watch the full 28mins.
Stacker Noob UK (5 months ago)
I'm only at 4:15 so far so I may be commenting out of place but as an intelligent guy myself (IQ of 145 and a PhD) I discovered while still very young that the sure fire way of at least getting women to talk to you is to be funny. Over the years Ive become a natural tease and piss-taker, and it really increased my success rate. It can be embarrasing at first but keep at it and you will be coming up with one line zingers with ease eventually. Of course ebing funny is only part of the puzzle but it gives you a way in, the rest is down to you. Also, if you are in a group of guys, showing a woman you are the one who can make everyone laugh gives you a form of dominance in the pack. Women want the man with status, and being funny whlst being a nice positive guy gives you status in a group. I'm about to get married to a total stunner so Im happy now, but I wasnt always.
Stacker Noob UK (5 months ago)
Now at 6:14 and turns out I was right. Who'd have thought it. Honestly I swear I didnt look ahead before typing the above.
brickzombie (5 months ago)
I think my life makes sense now? Huh, imagine that.
niki123489 (5 months ago)
You can create a spark between you and a woman, but just try not to use high voltage electricity!
aboymisunderstood (5 months ago)
I have Aspergers and really struggle to project confidence, but have found that asking open questions, being a bit mean, in a funny yet inquisitive way has worked well for me so far. I just need to work on being comfortable with physical contact now.
Providence Beats (5 months ago)
Not only smart guys. Arabs and indians live a life of struggle with women too.
Notmi Relnam (5 months ago)
I can't express how spot on this video is re; a smart person's perspective without seeming arrogant.
T12J7 (5 months ago)
LOL. I was just considering for moving from "Aloof and uninterested" to "Very positive" - not anymore. :D My problem also is that when all is going good and I can see that she is interested, I start to think that "do I even want to be in a relationship - I lose all my freedom and passions." After that, I typically try to kill it a pit, and usually, that ends up killing it altogether. I do not still know do I ectually want a girlfriend, maybe that's my biggest problem with women.
TheWaaaagh (5 months ago)
Jesus christ, 1:30 - 3:00 this is like...the story of my life right there. Not only are these spot-on, even the order in which I tried them is exactly the same. Well...that explains a lot actually. So basically, avoid neutral answers. Tease her with jokes in a way that will keep her talking.

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